Let's face it. Even in a strictly religious culture, people of a sect are going to have different views about what religion means and means to them. No matter how much indoctrination a family member has about a style of living and or moral value taught at home, once a person steps into the real world, which is the world outside of their home, the world will help influence thinking. Sometimes world events and experiences help to confirm learned believes as in behavior and sometimes it helps to influence a changing thinking process about what has been taught and learned by their heart and mind.
This is not an article to express an blame or excuse as to why "religious people" act or react the way they do to things that are different than what their religious beliefs suggests. It does however help to express why relationships break up because of religious values. The old adage, 'agree to disagree" comes to mind.
One must ask what are the goals of an individual. Obviously if one party of a relationship is goal and or plan orientated and the other has never shown any evidence of either, there will be a long-term conflict between the two. A decision of agreeing to disagreeing is more than challenging in that scenario. It's a pretty cut and dry situation.
Religion on the other hand has been a conflict for some people that gives for more compromise if the two can agree to disagree. In most cases, there must be a believe in both individuals of at least a higher power, since religious ways is based on that theory. It is not the religious thinking of individuals that has ruined most relationships as much as the ability or lack of ability to be open and versed in world ideas, events and knowledge about the human spirit, condition and respect for world community involvement. If two people can agree to disagree on some of their religious values and be willing to embrace and learn from the values of each other's thinking, the chances are there will be less or maybe even no conflict about religious value if initially the religion each practices is different than the other.
2012 Sharon L. West