What to do If Your Child is a Bully

Bullying can happen anywhere and anyone can be a victim. It can occur in workplaces, schools, public places and even at home. The target can be someone with disability, the weird looking and often, the weakest. While bullies can be openly aggressive and dominating, they can be someone we love. And it is disheartening to know that a child we own is someone feared and hated by other people.

How can a sweet child bully someone?

Researches cite that a bully is usually a product of a harsh environment. If a child is raised by dominating parents, he is also apt to acquire the same character. However, bullying can also result from a problem like depression, anxiety and even personality disorders which require medical help. Some kids would bully someone to conceal their own faults like low-esteem or shame. By taunting their victims, they will feel powerful and important.

Envy and hate are also grounds for bullying. These can be possible causes for a child from a nice or wholesome family to pick on a classmate or someone who is stealing his limelight as an act of revenge. More to this, if a child is often bullied he becomes a bully himself. Sadly, it becomes natural for him to taunt smaller kids since he is also being picked on by bigger aggressors.

A child we know, as sweet and caring to us can indeed, be a bully for the others.

What can we do?

No bullies can ever be tolerated by parents in fear for their child’s safety. Bullies are expelled from schools and generally despised. While the parents of the victims are concerned, the parents of the bullies may feel much worst. Any parents would not want their son or daughter attacking other children.

Bullies with personality problems may require extra help from a specialist. However, with those merely suffering from a dilemma and a common human trait – of hate or envy, a loving talk may be enough.

Children are often mislead and needs more attention. Parents can go on explaining to them what’s right and what’s wrong. All efforts may seem to go nowhere but, it is always the duty of the parents not to give up on their children.

© Phoenix Montoya @ July 2, 2012
 

Related article:

• Will You Advice Your Child To Punch Someone?