Weight Loss Series: Why Get Personal When it Comes to Weight loss - Day Nine

Each of our personal journeys, means so much for our weight loss. Haven’t you ever wondered why diet and exercise weren’t enough to lose weight? That’s because, there’s so much more to weight loss, than you’d ever imagine. Expand on your ideas of what you think it’ll really take to be successful at losing weight, and you’ll finally make the changes you absolutely need.

What is your personal journey? What got you overweight? What drives you to overeat or binge? What things in your life hurt you? Who hurts you? Who are you on a deeper level? Throughout the years, I knew some of these answers, but I wasn’t able to put together the things that would have changed the negative to positive. My issues were apparent to me, but I didn’t hammer away at them. I didn’t know how to do the work, to battle against them, and change my circumstances.

My life was out of control, because I didn’t make things the way they should have been. I sort of let myself live life as it were, rather than as I saw fit. So, the day to day things that were making me unhappy, I let it be, as if it were normal. I didn’t know any other way. I wasn’t one of those people where, if A is not working, I must go to plan B, or do anything I can to make things right. I lived my life in a passive manner. It was what it was. But, there came that time, where I knew I wanted to live again, and I didn’t sit by an allow things to remain the same. Those were the ways and things, which were destroying me. I knew it was time to attack everything that wasn’t working.

I don’t even feel what it’s like to be that person anymore. I’m so happy and complete, that those memories, seem so long ago. Luckily, I can not connect with those past feelings anymore. It’s like, this new way of life has been so ingrained in me, it’s as if its changed my genetics or something. It’s so exciting to feel, that the old me is just a memory. I can change so much in my life, that I don’t feel like the old me. I have so many “tools” in place, that I deal with everything that comes my way. I think things through, I pause before I react, and I never think of turning to food in a heated situation. My emotions or life’s pressures, don’t make me think of food anymore. Isn’t that amazing?

I had to “really learn,“ to listen to this person inside of me. I always thought I was listening, but all I was doing, was feeding its emotions with food. I wasn’t giving myself anything I really needed. I absolutely didn’t need all of that food. I needed instead, to take care of myself, to respect myself, to nurture myself, and to take care of all the things that were contributing to my weight. We think we’re listening to ourselves, but we’re not giving ourselves what we really need. This is what those extra pounds on our bodies reflect. I know, that if I don’t give myself what I need, it’ll mean more weight. I’ve gone through that already. I’m not going to let “not dealing with stuff in my life,” make me fat ever again. I deal with my junk now. Everyday of my life, I make sure there’s no junk.

So, why do I share my stories with you? We’ll, it’s because, life still has its challenges. Weight loss or not, we still need to deal with life. Whether my past, facing it, having some of the same bad influences crossing my path at times, whatever it is, things will still happen, and I’ll need to cope. I share my life with you, because I want you to see, I still need to handle the bad things that happen. My life is real. Not everything is perfect. I still have my struggles. I don’t have good relationships with some people in my family. I get sad too, when I try so hard to accomplish something, and it doesn’t go as well as I’ve planned. I’m only human, and I have disappointments. So, I guess I want you to see, that the old me had challenges, but I turned to food, mostly ignoring any problems in my life, burying my hurts by eating. This new me, lives a more crazy life at times, but I face those challenges head on, handle them, and food isn’t something I need to turn to. My fathers emotional abuse won’t make me eat anymore. His put downs, whether because of jealousy or because I’m providing for my family as he couldn’t, I don’t need to eat because of him. I can travel, work, visit with friends and family, deal with listening to someone else’s garbage, and I’m ok. The unexpected or tragedy can strike, and I’m going to be involved in handling it. I’m not about to sit down and pour my emotions into food again. I’ve let my dad hurt me enough. I’ve let myself feel lonely. I’ve abused my body. But, I’ve moved so far away from being that person. I don’t need to react as I once did. I will live my life today, doing the things I love and enjoying it, rather than let anything get me down again, that I need to binge. I don’t need to weigh what I once did. I want to show you, you don’t need to weigh what you are either. That’s why I share.

I want you to see my life’s progression. I want you to see all the things I’ve gone through and face these days, in my life. It has been a major transformation. I choose not to do those things I once did, and I like all the things I do instead. My life is acceptable to me these days, pretty close to 100%. And, being this way today, doesn’t take much effort. It’s tremendously rewarding, to live a life, where I don’t punish myself anymore with food. I wake each day, filled with excitement, because I have so much more to live for. I’m not waking for my next binge anymore. I’m waking to live this glorious life. I’m truly blessed for the changes I’ve been able to make. I’m in control now. You’ll see for yourself, how important making life changes are, for your weight loss. You’ll see, there’s a bigger picture, and until you accept it as I did, you’ll keep wondering why diet and exercise alone hasn’t worked. Believe me, there’s so much more to weight loss. You’ll need to go deep, deal with things, and as I have, learn to handle “the junk.” This, is why we need so badly, to get personal.

See also:

- Weight Loss Series: Why Are Steps One and Two so Important For Your Weight Loss - Day Eight

- Weight Loss Series: Your Second Major Step To Take For Weight Loss - Day Seven