We are the main cause of the problem.
We often hear people complain about family problem, health problem, and money problem.
They always like to blame others for the problems.
They blame the government, the weather, the bosses, their colleagues, their spouses, their children, and everyone else.
Actually, we are the main cause of the problem.
Think about it this way, if we have managed money well, and we do not have any vice, would we have money problem?
Most likely not.
Most people have money problem because they do not save enough.
They do not plan for the future.
They do not plan to marry a person wiser and better than them. They do not teach their children about managing finance.
That is why they have money problem. Money is not the problem, but the person is.
What about family problems?
Family problems are partly our faults too.
If we learn to keep our mouth shut, and not say things to make matter worse, the bad feeling will not linger.
The quarrel will cease.
Even if our family members want to hurt us through words, we can stop ourselves from getting hurt.
We can choose to ignore the words, and choose to believe that our family members are just momentary out of control emotionally.
In many marriages, the marital problem starts because of choosing the wrong person as a spouse.
Sometimes others can see that the marriage is doomed from the start.
Romance and love are two entirely different things.
Physical attractive and true love are very different too.
The day to day living does not have much romance in it.
You cannot imagine washing dishes as romantic. You will not think of changing the tire as romantic.
A marriage based solely on physical attraction and romance will fail.
How to solve the cause of problem?
We have to see our faults clearly, and admit that we are the cause of the problem. Nobody is blameless when things start to go wrong.
The only question is how much we have contributed to make things from bad to worse.
Before you start to react negatively in a tense situation, just bear in mind that you are the cause of the problem as well. Do not make it worse.
Scheng1 is a passionate blogger from Singapore. Rich in every sense reveals my deep desire in enjoying life, and be rich in every possible ways. Personal Finance is about money, from making money to investing money. Retirement in Asia contains resources about retirement planning.