The Two Faces of Love

All our life we have been in love. Others cry while we say the words "I love You" while the others joyfully proclaim their emotions. I gues what I'm trying to say is that Love is realized in two instances, first is when we feel the joy of finally being with the one we love and the second is that when we are crying in pain for the person we love.

The yin and yang of the cycle of love is always present in a relationship. Let us first talk about the positive side which is joy. When you meet the one person that you feel a tingle of joy that others haven't chilled you, you say he is the one. Then the idea of love fills our heart as we joyously sing to ourselves or even the whole world how we are so consumed by this emotion. It just does not happen the first time you meet this person but on the everyday you will spend time with each other. This is the side of love that we have mistaken as fantasy. We always say that this feeling of joy is the happy ending of an ideal relationship. The idea of joy is something unseen but strengthens a relationship. This is the idea of "perfect love" the one that makes you smile as you wake up each day. Most of the celebreties you see on the movies inspires us that this idea is still alive. Not ony through visual entertainment but also the songs that we hear inspires us to have such a happy love life.

Here comes the heavy part, pain. Pain is something that most people refer to as "reality". Most of the supporters of this idea was said to have experienced a love tragedy. The pain they have felt came along with the happiness of the idea of love. The joy they felt in arelationship was less than the pain it brought to their lives.  Now, they blame love for what they have gone through. The thought of pain lead to suicide, murders, and mostly activities that would physically abuse one's self. This is not a good thought about pain. Why not think about it as the only reminder that what happened was real. Interpret it this way, when we falll in love and got hurt, it means that we were serious on what we did as we have felt and regret the after effects of our relationship. If we think that pain is something that is similar to a punishment then that is where we go wrong. Pain is also an obstacle that could give a good effect such a stronger relationship.

So how will you define love? The joy of overcoming pain or the pain we pay for being happy? It all depends on you on how you will interpret this wonderful gift and how you determine it actually is the result of love in your life. Remember that perfect harmony needs the perfect balance of the negative and the positive side. Love comes with both pain and joy, laughter and tears. Remember when you get married, you vowed in front of all the witnesses and before God, for richer for poorer, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, till death do as part?  I have a better one, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, for better for worse, from this moment until forever.