Love: Your wife must always be sure that you love her above everyone else including yourself. No matter the situation, even if you have caught her cheating on you or suspect her of any wrong doing, she must be able to say, 'I know he loves me, i am the one who took his love for granted', again, if you are the one keeping the late night and doing things that does not please her, she must never have a reason to doubt your love and absolute commitment towards her. Believe me, if your wife catches you naked in bed with another woman, but she is sure you love her and was only making a fool of yourself, she will be hurt and may insist that you undergo therapy in order to deal with your issues but she is likely going to forgive you in the long run, but if you are holier than an angel in your conduct and your wife feels you dont love her anymore, the probability of her leaving you or engaging in an extra marital affair becomes very high.
Time: I've heard people say time is money, but i also believe that time is love. The amount of the finite time we all have and what we spend it on determines our state of mind towards that thing. if you love your wife the best way to prove it is by spending time with her. Buying her stuffs is good, but a woman will rather have the warmth of her husband that the most expensive jewelery. Do not assume that missing dinners, staying away from home is search of money and so on make up for the time you refuse spend at home. many couples becomes roommates because they are not spending time together and at the end of the day they grow apart and become estranged. Your wife must be sure that your time is her to have at anytime and at any moment. women are not unreasonable and we all know that if a woman keeps us at home against our will we become grumpy and bad company, so she will keep no man she loves a perpetual prisoner but she wants to be sure that when she calls you are there always!
Loyalty: Wifes can sometimes be unreasonable especially because we are sometimes unreasonable too. thats why we are partners, to cover each other's faults and work on each other's strengths! whenever an issue arises and you have to choose between your wife's unreasonable decision and the perfectly reasonable decision of an outsider (Friend or relative) back your wife. If her choice is so bad that she orders a food in a restaurant that you can barely swallow, eat it with a smile, when its just the two of you, laugh over it and dont ever revisit the episode as a blackmail or negotiation tactic. always know that marriage is not just about feelings, it is about values and when you value someone, their madness is to you absolutely enjoyable.
Support: Your wife must be sure of your support in her decisions. she must believe that you think her capable of making choices without you second guessing her choice. when she makes a decision about really important issues like where to live, which school the children should attend and so on, as long as you are sure she made the decision to marry you (A right one) then dont assume she cannot make right decisions again! support her and back her up in whatever decision she makes.
Declaration: You must not allow your wife to become second to anyone else in your life. you must declare her as your wife on facebook, twitter, myspace and every other social networks, she must be your next of kin, her picture must not be replaced on your desktop or phone simply because you have a new baby or your child is so cute. Wear your wedding ring with pride, more than that, wear your wife with pride.
Trust: Your wife must be able to trust your word and your actions. when you are going to point A, let her know you are going to point A. if you must leave point A for any reason and move to point c, call her and inform her of your new unlogged destination. if you are with miss a, tell her you are with miss a, if she is a jealous type who does not like being told you are with a woman, tell her you are with someone who you know she will be angry if you give her the full disclosure. it is good for your relationship, if your wife can close her eyes and say you are somewhere and you are indeed there.
Disclosure: Tell your wife everything. if couples tell each other the truth about everything we will no longer need shrinks to talk to. if you find yourself lusting after someone tell her, if you find yourself in debt, tell her, you lose your job let her know, you have been seduced, let her know, you have been raped? let her know! let her know everything so that there will be no room for blackmail or deep secrets that tear homes apart. secrets were said to be the key to keeping marriages together, no wonder many marriages fail, the truth and openness works better, if you have done wrong she will be angry, you will be reprimanded and that will be that. it is absolutely selfish to keep the truth away from your wife because the chain of events that will follow will make you miserable and ultimately she will discover the truth.