It`s all so confusing especially in the day in which we live.Everyone seems to have an opinion,an angle and their own definition as to what constitutes genuine relationships,especially those related to love.We all at some time or another had or still have at list one relationship,weather good or bad is questionable and is for everyone of us to determine.Now this raises the question,how can one qualify a good/bad relationship? I do believe though, that most of us are more apt to recognize a bad relationship than to unequivocally pinpoint a good one.As we all know, some things are blatantly obvious and then again some things are not.Well, this is where Objective Thinking and Facing Reality comes into play and by that i mean,the ability to be able to differentiate between Principles and Function.Therefor,the remainder of this article is to get things in perspective as they relates.
Some of us have lived long enough to have learned that even through trial and error,that some things in life simply do not work.For the most part,we try the same things in different ways just to end up with the same unfortunate results and Relationships are no exception to that rule. It has been said,that “there are thousands of ways to do a thing and only one is wright”so i hope you can see where we are going with this. It is estimated that there is approximately seven billion people on our planet currently and if asked to discuss any given subject,we all know that there would be myriads of opinions. Yes, everyone of us might pat ourselves on the back and walk away quite contented entertaining the idea that we are right in our own way. But amidst all this consternation and self promotion,where is objective reality?
In every aspect of life there should and must have boundaries,norms,standards some sort of measurement or gauge.In other words,a system.Something that will let us know unequivocally that we are in or out of bonds. Well,as we should see from this,our opinion is definitely not an issue.Certainly we are all entitled to our opinions with regards to many things in life which have very little if anything at all to do with principles.Such as individual tastes and other things commensurate with one`s personality and even so,when we adopt a particular way of life,that does not mean it is correct,it only means that our freedom in not negated.We all have the right to chose whatever way of life,whatever curse of action,whatever Relationship we desire with the accompanying ramifications of course!
Relationships begins in as many different ways we can think of and they usually progresses from stage to stage to stage until they are more or less established and just like everything else things are always best at their beginnings or at list they appears to be and one of the reason for this is,we tend to put more emphasis on our emotions rather than thought,”OBJECTIVE THINKING”.We are magnetically drawn to the ostentatious to the point of neglecting the inner essence of the object of our so called love which at this stage is about ninety nine percent infatuation.It`s no wonder in our lack of objectivity we cannot help but inadvertently misconstrue these emotions and infatuations for genuine love whereby initiating relationships on these hazy and nebulous concepts which accounts for all the inevitable confusions and illusions.
Most of us seems to have a tremendous propensity for our self importance,in other words,selfishness abounds in every realm.In today`s trend very few of us are sensitive enough to adequately be occupied with anyone else apart from ourselves.Relationships nowadays is mostly based on convenience,some are corned into with the attendant altaria motives and others although well meaning but lacking the proper information and mechanics to sustain and perpetuate long lasting and meaningful relationships.By proper information and mechanics we are referring to principles,boundaries,measurements and the like.These includes,Respect in general,for privacy,property,consideration,Thoughtfulness,sensitivity,loyalty,willingness to forgive,in short, integrity.
Which all should be done with Objective Thinking and facing reality for what it is eliminating as much as possible the emotions that has been the criteria and basis for engaging in relationships.Surely,emotion do have a wonderful part to play in all relationships but it is incumbent upon us to keep checks and balances on them.Remember,emotions are not the initiator of love and relationships but should be a responder to what is true and genuine to the same.More often than not however,miss guided emotions are a determining factor for the all to unfortunate demise of virtually all types of relationships from start to finish and please keep in mind that everything is not the same and also, principles are more important than people.In essence, without principles there would be no people much less true and genuine relationships that can last forever.