Talk about marital infidelities and foremost that comes to mind is a husband’s betrayal of the marriage vows. This concept is now passé and somehow the adage that “what men can do, women can do too and at times better (or worst),” is also relevant to this topic due to the rising cases of women’s infidelities today.
Let’s take a look on the raison d'être behind these infidelities.
Mynah claims to be deeply in love with her husband and she could not picture herself living with anybody else under one roof aside from him. She says that their relationship is going on very smoothly. They both enjoy doing things together and their activities are planned and accomplished as designed. Now, why put their marriage in jeopardy by secretly getting involved with someone else? She alleged to have found a new excitement and thrill in doing this discreetly, and a pleasure she found difficult to explain but added a spice into the monotonous routine of her life. We may not agree with her line of reasoning but it only shows that infidelity takes place between happily married couples too.
Others are due to:
Adulterous Husband – This seems to be the prevalent reason for women to be unfaithful too. Some women who could no longer stand their husbands’ philandering ways become rebellious and resort to being disloyal to them to get even. This is the case where women feel less guilty (or not guilty at all). Generally, the wife sees this as a reality of her life and feels that she’s not doing wrong.
Distance – Loneliness is one factor that creates vulnerability in women that when someone shows concern and attention they easily fall for him.
Battered or Taken for Granted – Miserable conditions and the feeling of helplessness make women cling to whoever would give them a chance to come out of their wretched condition. Someone under this category professed that she was forced to resort to it as this was one way for her to maintain her sanity and the motivating force to continue on living.
Difference in preferences – According to Sheilah, pleasing her husband is almost impossible. They argue on a lot of things as they seem to visualize things and situations on different aspects. And this she only discovered after the marriage. Tired from arguing and justifying her actions and decisions most of the time, she was drawn into an association with someone whom she shares similar interests which later developed into a more intimate alliance.
There are myriad of reasons why women go off track in their marriage life but above cases are the most common. These bring to conclusion that boredom, revenge, loneliness, misery, need for ego or moral boosting could instigate wives to betray their husbands and find solace in another to seek protection and feeling of security and importance. Often times, infidelities are unintentional but circumstances play a great part and influence them to play this dangerous game of life. It also shows that not all women who cheat do not love their respective husbands. It’s just that too much familiarity and too much routine in marital activities tend to wane down feelings to level of friendship thus losing the excitement and the passion they once have.
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