How to Prevent Divorce In Your Marriage

It seems like "marriage till death us part" is becoming obsolete for it has been quite hard to achieve. You can count on your fingers couples (as exemplified by celebrities whose life is open to public) whose marriage remained strong till death. Divorce is becoming a normal thing so that they found nothing wrong in divorcing once their marriage is no longer pleasing.

In Malachi 2:16,God says “I hate divorce....”Whatever the reason maybe for divorcing one thing is very certain, God never likes divorce. Remember what God says in Matthew 19:3 “Therefore what God has joined together, let no man put asunder. Marriage is honorable and must be respected. It is not a game which you will end once you feel tired or cheated or not happy anymore. Two people who plan to tie the knot must first make sure they really love each other and are able to pursue their marriage till death. If both are really in love it will be easier for them to remain faithful and forgiving to each other and if and when something goes along the way (as trials in marriage do always occur) they can always open the door for restoration whether they have children or not.

The Bible allows divorce for two reasons only :(1) sexual immorality (Matthew 5:32; 19:9) and (2) abandonment by an unbeliever (1 Corinthians 7:15). But this does not mean divorce is being encouraged by God but rather it these grounds were given because people are stubborn and sinful. Nevertheless even in the event a partner commits sin, if he has repented and confessed indeed then he should be forgiven and reconciliation should be given a room. In the event the offending partner is not even repentant, the offended one can bring the matter to God first for His intervention. It is always best to be more patient and to pray for the one who committed sin so that he will have a change of heart. Divorce should always be the last option in all cases.

In today’s society there are some additional reasonable grounds for divorce such as when a spouse abuse a child (emotionally, physically or sexually); addictions (such as drug, alcohol and gambling); violent spouses; and many more intolerable actions committed by either one or both. Instead of thinking there is divorce anyway so I might just as well get married because I feel like doing so and just divorce if the marriage did not work, think first that God hates divorce and if you fear God then you should avoid divorce. Let the many cases of divorce be good lessons to those who are planning to marry. Always remember that God hates divorce and if you don’t want to be involved in something that God hates then choose your lifetime partner very carefully. Don’t be deceived by the outward appearance. Scrutinize, examine and investigate everything about the person of the person with whom you plan to spend your whole life with before finally exchange “ I DO” with him or her.