Many people percieve relationship as their primary priority. They value it so much they believe that keeping it healthy and happy will be the one of the most important aspect of their lives. But there are things that are inevitable. Unfortunate situations that eventually happen, inspite of all the efforts we do to avoid it. And having a broken relationship aren’t exemptions. Perhaps due to incompatibility, individual differences or any sort.
There are circumstances that will happen no matter how we try to avoid it. This article is particularly written for boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship. Some people percieve and treat a relationship as a “not so serious matter”. They engage into a relationship for the sake of company, and many, for the pursuit of promiscuity. But many people also prefer it as very serious matter as if it’s the most precious thing on their lives.Something they couldn’t live without.
When their expectations of having a successful relationship fails, emotional devastations, frustration, denial and depression occurs, many people couldn’t handle it till their only option is to tragically take their own lives. The purpose of this article is how to recover and bounecback after a breakup.
Here are some things to consider in order for you to pass the stages of emotional recovery:
Cry- Scientific studies shows that having a good cry is the best cope up mechanism during the stages of shock till the gradual trasition of recovery. Extreme emotions of loneliness, meloncholy and burdens can be released and expressed through shedding of tears. After a good cry, you’ll feel better and will have the feeling of relief and sense of release. It will clarify your thoughts and regain your composure towards emotional recovery.
Don’t dwell on your loneliness- After a breakup; there will be stages prior to emotional recovery. Initially, a state of shock is a natural occurrence that will eventually lead to chronic major depression. But you’ll also need to understand that life goes on even after a failed relationship. You need to move on and go to a process of gradual transition. So you need to do your best to forget the pains and heartaches you had in the pass. The main idea is not to dwell on your loneliness by closing the former chapters of your life and opening a new one. Learn to find ways to be happy, they say happiness is just a state of mind. Whether you believe you’ll be happy or sad, you’re right.
Divert-The next step is to find some ways to forget all the heartaches. It could be by watching a funny movie, having a good chat with friends or even playing sports.Diversionary tactics is an effective method for you to continue your life and eventually move on.Things that will help you not dwell in your loneliness
Have a hobby-Engage into some activity your passionate about. If you like listening to music, learn and study to play an instrument. If you’re fond of sport like basketball or boxing, join a club. If you like collecting things and stuffs, go for it. As you spend quality time doing the things you love, you’ll attain a sense of purpose and excellence.All your burdens and frustrations can be expressed creatively on an expressive canvass like an artform or physical exertion like athletic activities.
Learn to appreciate yourself- If you think you’re not attractive enough, don’t be. Each and every one of us has his own unique attractive trait; you just need to enhance it. It could be by wearing fashionable apparel or (for the ladies) wearing make up to ennhance you’re facial features. As you appreciate yourself, you will be contagious and people will appreciate you as well. Finding a way to boost your confidence will will raise your awareness towards seeking your sense of self-worth,
Mingle-After a long period of grief. Perhaps it’s the time to move on and welcome the idea of opening a new chapter of your life by meeting a having a new “someone”. But don’t be misled. You're about to welcome a new relationship not to forget your ex but to have someone who is more deserving for your love and affection, if you have the wrong mindset, you’re new “someone” will feel cheated and betrayed. So you need to have the sincerest intention.
Entering a new relationship is somehow a challenging endeavor. But you need to step up and assess what went wrong on the pass. Life is short. There’s no need to spend your lifetime frowning. So you need to enjoy to fullest this wonderful journey called life.