Breaking up is hard to do.
That's not just a song, it's the truth. Usually people go out of their way to avoid a break up. But there are times when you should dump your boyfriend. There are signs to look for that will tell you that your relationship is nearing it's end.
Now I'm not going to say it'll be easy. Breaking up with your boyfriend will be difficult even if your relationship isn't that great. However in this case breaking up with him now, may save you the pain of being dumped later.
So, here are some signs that are good reasons to consider when asking yourself it you should dump your boyfriend.
1. He's never got time for you.
In a healthy relationship, a couple spends much of their free time together. Now you don't need to be attached at the hip, but going out together or spending time together regularly is normal. If you're boyfriend suddenly reduces the amount of time he has for you to just disappears altogether, you need to ask yourself why. If there is no valid reason, this could be one of the signs you should dump your boyfriend.
2. He's hiding things from you.
Everyone deserves a little privacy. In fact in a healthy relationship it's normal for each partner to need some space and time to be alone or with their own friends. However there's a difference between being private and being secretive or sneaky. If he's suddenly changed his behavior and is trying to hide things from you either he's planning your surprise birthday party or he's up to no good. This can easily be one of the signs you should dump your boyfriend.
3. He doesn't want to have sex... with you.
Many couples fall into a sexual rut, but if you feel more like you've fallen into a ditch, there may be a problem. If you're sex life has gone from very active to non-existent, this is the sign of a problem. He may be having some type of sexual dysfunction or he just doesn't want to have sex with you. If there is nothing physically wrong with him that's keeping him from your usual nighttime (or daytime) activities, then this may be one of the signs you should dump your boyfriend.
4. He doesn't remember anything important to you.
The classic stereotype is the husband or boyfriend who forgets the anniversary and has to run around trying to find a last minute gift. However this is not always the case, in fact many men remember the days that are important to their partner. They remember when they promise to be somewhere or pick you up for a date. Now, your boyfriend may just be forgetful. However, if he remembers the things important to everyone but you, this is definitely one of the signs you should dump your boyfriend.
5. You may have just ended up with a real loser.
It's happened to the best of us. There are times in our lives when you let the worst of men slip in. Maybe you were lonely. Maybe you didn't fully heal from your last break up. It's possible you were just looking for love in the wrong places.
Sometimes you need to just admit you screwed up and you're dating a loser. When you're dating a loser you know you should dump your boyfriend. It's doesn't mean you will. But you know you should.
Even when you have a very good reason, it's still difficult to dump your boyfriend.
You want to give him the benefit of the doubt. After all there are any number of reasons why someone would do any of the things on this list. You need to decide whether you want to try to save your relationship or not.
If you do decide that you want to ignore the signs that you should dump your boyfriend, first remember this. You can't make him change. Unless he's willing to do what needs to do to build a healthy relationship, it will never work. So before you put all of your heart and soul in to fixing the problem, make sure he wants to be with you.