Finding Love Starts with being Selective
Men are not to be considered the selector if the natural dating process is to benefit both a man and woman for building a long term loving relationship. To find a man should not be any more complicated for a woman than purchasing a pocketbook she finds to be a fit to her personality.
A woman's pocketbook tells the story of representing who she is and what she wants to hold things dear. The texture, tone and items inside a pocketbook tells volumes as to how selective or not a woman is about her likes and desires. Picking out a pocketbook that has depth includes finding a pocketbook that is secures the items within. These are all buying traits of buying a leather or canvas bag for example that women need to learn for choosing a mate that is going to be as close to a personal fit that seems made for her. Whether a man and woman have met through online dating, at a club or in a public space, the selection process is always in the power of the hand of a woman.
It is a competition between women that makes for winning a man. It is deciding if a prospective man is worth winning, but whether a man deserves to win a woman that all females should never forget is the key to finding a deserving man. Once women believe and or remember that it is the choices they make about being selective in the market of available men, she will have wider eyes in choosing to only date men that that will both satisfy her and be satisfied by her personality. Women must learn to pick men and not have men pick them.
By learning and believing the simple task of dating is based on the selectivity of women's choices, the game of love begins to be played out in favor of a woman's needs. If the needs of a woman is met, than the chosen man will both benefit the woman and be happy in his relationship. Being a woman who is selective is the best way to finding a desirable mate.
Too often women concern themselves with what they think a man may want and neglect identifying a man that can respond to their emotional needs and lend security that is way beyond financial. Spiritual security, intelligence, health and the ability to be a strong family man and or father image is paramount for younger women dating. Ironically, the older woman dating will find benefit in choosing an older man using the same value system for being selective to find happiness in a relationship since the ways of these type of men are stamped in gold. Being a member of "Generation Me", has a special set of values that make finding all type of respectable and satisfying relationships with men, women and authority figures more challenging than the generations before them. Read the article at the end of this article to find out how to identify the patterns of personality traits labeled as Generation Me for more information on the need to define why it is important to have a set of values that help build relationships with others.
© 2012 Sharon L. West