BONE OF MY BONE.
Gen 2:23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
The world of the singles is a world of wonder. That period when he or she is eligible, ripe and longing for a life partner is one filled with a lot of apprehension, uncertainty and trepidation. Time is important, place is crucial, event is influential, attitude and disposition must be in sync, the eyes must be observant, the ears sharp, mannerism must be documented, likes and dislikes must be adaptive. He or she must also exhibit pocket wisdom, being too stingy is an indictment and overt generosity will pass across the wrong message. Truth be told, the spiritual aspect is as important as the physical, visions, dreams, nightmares and prophesies can only go so far.
While I was in the university a brother in the Lord saw a vision that he was the best man in my wedding to a particular sister. Soon others saw and heard the same thing and came to tell me. The more people confirmed the vision, the more convinced I became but I kept my distance from the sister because I really don’t want to have a relationship while still in school. Just as we were getting to the final year, myself and the sister were suddenly drawn together. We became friends. I know I didn’t go out of my way to be nice, and neither did she. We started strolling together in the campus and before long we were eating together and really getting close. I started dreaming about her and only God knows how much money I spent on phone calls. People thought we made a nice couple, but I was desperately praying that the prophesy will not come true! Why? One day, I asked her to follow me to the bank and she said gave me a condition that if she should, I will give her 50% of whatever amount I withdraw. It was at that moment that I noticed that since we became friends, she had been at the ‘Demand’ end of our economy while I handled the supply. Our meals, provisions, shoes, academic materials, transport fare within the campus and miscellaneous costs were petering out of my pocket. She hardly even called, I had to do the calling. I didn’t complain because I genuinely liked her company but I really didn’t want to marry a leech. My friends who noticed our closeness began to ask me when I will formalise the union, after all, it had been foretold but all I saw was a bleak future. The brother who saw the vision came to ask me why I was foot dragging and I told him to look at all I had and tell me one thing that he can see that the sister has ever bought for me. He searched and couldn’t even find a greeting card. ‘Where in the world have you seen two friends as close as we are, and one has nothing to hold that reminds him of the other?’ I asked him.
We graduated and parted ways; out of the blues she phoned me one day told me how she feels about me and asked me why I didn’t propose, I told her the truth. ‘I am not the kind of girl who spends her money for boys’ she said before she could catch herself. ‘Thank God, I didn’t propose to someone who sees me as a boy’ I replied. She quickly tried to correct herself but the damage had been done. Does this make the prophesies and visions false? No! But we all have a role to play in the vision of God’s purpose for our lives.