Abuse may be in a form of Physical or Emotional or Very Loud Sharp shouting that it really hurts to someone when heard.
A common Scenario that it all started as a courting boy appears to be a gentle dog (gentle man) who do everything just to please a girl to accept a proposal to love him and the boy promised to give that girl all of the stars in the night sky, claiming that there is no impossible as long as she will accept and love the boy.
But after marriage, soon the boy changes his attitude, it becomes abusive, abuse to a woman is increasing as days passed by.
Courting a Girl for more than 10 years reduces a lot of risk, tendency, or possibilities of abusing scenario because the girl might know more about the attitude of that boy. It should be a hard to get courting.
Another reason for a husband on why he thinks that his wife is like a Karate punching bag or a Wing Chun wooden dummy is because the girl having no source of income, not finish any college degree, and since the husband is dominant, a bread winner, he can do that cross, uppercut and jabbing.
But if the Girl only finished her college studies on early years and have a good job that can support her future family very well, then the possibilities of a husband abusing lessens; or that girl in turn has the right to hook, straight punches to his husband if he is about to start to abuse later. The girl should have no fear on annulment or divorce because she can support a family and her future is secured.
Finish Studies first, have a good job, a permanent job, have a good salary, and before accept a courting and playing hard to get.