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She is a beautiful girl but why did he break up with her and chose a less beautiful girl instead?
Most men won’t deny that they want pretty woman. Who doesn’t want to marry a good-looking person? On the other hand, men have other needs, too, three of which are moral support, a good listener, and appreciation. Understanding what men want leads to a longer and stronger relationship with them.
Moral Support
Men are like kids in a sense that a simple moral support means a lot to them. Though the underlying reputation of men is strength, they don’t love doing things alone (unless they are a loner or a hermit). So he loves playing basketball with his colleagues every Friday night. Go, watch him shoot that ball, and cheer for him once in a while.
A Good Listener
Another underlying reputation of men is that they are not emotionally expressive. They are scared of speaking their emotions out because the society, and sometimes the parents, said it’s a sign of weakness, which is a minus to his manhood. These pent up emotions eventually develop the man’s desire to be listened to. Whenever your man expresses what he feels, listen to him. He might sound silly but just listen to him. It will strengthen the trust between you and him. Give some advice, as much as possible, only if he asked for it.
Appreciation
Men also need appreciation. When he cooks something for you, don’t just appreciate the taste of the food. You need to appreciate the mere fact that he cooked for you, which he doesn’t usually do for other women. Be grateful to every single effort that he is making just for you. That will inspire him to care for you more.
Aside from just a beautiful girl- men needs a woman who is willing to listen, to appreciate and to give them moral support.
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You made good points in your article about men and women. Yes, beauty is perhaps only a part of a relationship but the more important are the 3 things you mentioned.
i think it is true for the man and the woman. i think both the man and woman need to respect one another as well as communicate with each other to make sure each is giving the right amount of moral support, listening, and appreciating each other.
really its amazing
Moral support is very essential. Thank you.
That is true , that is also what most women want but most men lack patient and rather go for a fast girl than take time to know a life partner .
absolutely right..but unfortunately very few women realize the fact
Interesting article. The requirement of men vary from person to person.
Souvik Chatterji.
As you point out, beauty isn't everything.In fact, without a personality, it's next to nothing.
Thanks Alot! That's a nice piece of advice. A strong and firm man still has another side of imperfectionality. Be it emotional needs or weakness of a mankind.
nice advice. thanks. will try it.
my male cat has the same needs, as well. i always listen to his meowing in order to fulfill his needs. He enjoys lots of cuddling for moral support, and he also enjoys attention.
I was going thro the comments too. WIth due humbleness I want to add point which has been missed. From women we men also expects a motherly love. In childhood days when we slip and fall how she will dive to save me getting hurt. When I am running high fever how she will behave. Finally when I return home starving whole day how she will act. All such activity punched into motherly affection a man expects from a women. Here age factor does not matter. Now at this old age of sixty I like to be scolded by daughter in whom I see mother.But why? Because I miss her even now.
even if you always provide him with those three things ( listening, appreciating and supporting) what is missing that you still don't get the kind of attention you want... .... and they say girls are difficult to understand..,
What men need is an ego boost 24x7.
The fact that such an article would be written and recommended is an indication of a lack of wisdom. Add to that the depressed and depressing man-centered worldview in the article itself, and... What can I do to enlighten readers?
The function of a woman, or any human, is not to simply be a man's cheerleader, psychologist, and appreciator, in addition to being eye candy. A human is typically a contributing member of society or the world. As a citizen and moral agent, a woman will exercise Freedoms for the betterment of her community or world. This is a far cry from being Man-boy's Crutch. A woman exercising freedom of speech will give a man advice, information, feedback, etc. not simply when he asks for help but when it's necessary for real improvements.
Be an adult: self-motivate, deal with your own emotions (hire a professional psychologist to help you learn how to do that, or do art), and value your own work (if you don't appreciate it, then you're learning/working under capacity). There are already plenty of real children to raise into adults. (See also "How to Grow up" at psychologytoday.com/articles/201204/how-grow)
Thank you. I was just discussing this this morning with my boyfriend. A society that does not allow men to learn to deal with their emotions, teach them to be emotionally available and teach them to value women as humans rather than objects to meet male needs, is a society that deprives men from being full human beings. I was arm candy for a needy man much like the one described in this article for two years. I am now seeing someone who meets my needs by having good boundaries, respect for women, and an emotional and supportive relationship with his children.
A great article but I thing appreciation should come first. Men like to be flattered and adored :)
I think appreciation is probably the most important. There isn't a day that goes by where I don't compliment by partner on the way he looks, or something he is wearing. I always am striving to make him feel great and know that he is deeply loved.
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very true, I have had the same experience and won over my husband touch wood even though it was not a fairy tale story at first and even now there are differences of opinion, but life is like that. Like your article very much, fb shared.
i agree..though five fingers of a hand are not equal, but in majority its true..
i like it :)
We must always see things from the inner self, rather than the outer self.
Beauty flow out from inner so do not judge people by appearance too.
I always believed these are the qualities that a woman needs to feel happy in a relationship. It's interesting to hear that it's the same with men?
This is true for some men, but not all sad to say.